The communicative character and interpersonal relationships

Abstract

“We all aspire to talk, to dialogue in a world shaken by multimedia communication, but which paradoxically establishes an impersonal silence. Everything happens as if we didn’t transmit the main point.” (Raoul Pantanella) Human groups organize and maintain themselves thanks to believes, opinions, prejudices common to all the members that make them up. However, not only the personality features of the subjects have repercussions over the group, but also the group influences the individual. Within the group, man learns to adopt an attitude towards the others, to time him to the circumstances, to see him in others – opportunity of personal probing, of rediscovering and awareness of the difference between what we believe we are and what we really are. As soon as man passes beyond the immediate knowledge, through sensations, as soon as he tears himself away from what it is given by the direct experience, by his memories, he disposes of two ways of drawing up explanations, of making assumptions and anticipations, of reasoning or imagining things. There are a logic of reasons and a logic of feelings; the last one – the most frequent in the individual and social life – is not a residuum of the other one, but it has a structure and a reason of its own. Man represents a complex informational and communicative structure. He emits, intercepts and remakes information; he is source and receiver in the same time. Physically and biologically programmed, he is source of information and receiver; he transmits, receives, remakes information and includes it into his own structures. He cannot live outside the communication, communication being the sense, the support and the reason of being. The content of communication, reflected by the way of thinking, by the logical rigour and correctness, by mental attitudes, represents the decisive factor, which gives sense and relevance to the communication. The psychic inner, culturally shaped, acquired through education and selfeducation, represents the real basis of the communication’s efficiency, succeed and success. In a certain way, relations are like games, having in view certain purposes and including rules, which define the roles the persons in relation with it must perform.